When should the Relationship end?

In relationships where should the line be drawn to accept all the abuse and mistreatment? When is it ENOUGH?

I have to address the ladies on this subject mainly because that's where I have noticed most of the issues. Why do women hold on to relationships when it is blatant mistreatment going on. I have heard the excuse "we have been together for X amount of years" too many times. Since when does the amount of years justify why your self pride, self worth and value are discredited? Ladies you have to stop making excuses. Stop holding on to a person that is clearly not for you; or waiting to wake up one morning and see a changed person. Why is all your energy focused on saving something that isn't worth or will not change. Kissing a frog and he turning into a prince is only in the fairy tales. For arguments sake let's say at one point this man was your knight in shining armor and one day he changed and hasn't been that person since then. Well clearly his feelings about you changed, whether you did something to make his feelings shift, or he just isn't interested in the relationship anymore. What about the idea that maybe he just was that way to hook you, cause really who is a jerk from day one?

Let's give some examples of mistreatment or abuse (in my opinion). Obviously physical abuse would be the number one example. I'm waiting for the answer to the million dollar question why would you stay with someone that treats you like a punching bag. What about verbal abuse. Calling you names that are demeaning; whore, bitch, slut etc. Add the adjectives stupid or fuckin in the front of those words and it makes it ten times worse. How can you forgive some one for that would belittle you in such a way. If another woman or person that owes you nothing called you that on the street you would be ready to fight. But a person that is suppose to love, cherish and respect you says it and it's ok. Ok he says sorry he didn't mean it he was just mad. FORGET THAT what you say first is usually your true thoughts. Of course we all say things that sometimes we don't mean, and in the heat of the moment, but when it's continuous let's be real. When the relationship has gotten to the point of horrible and cruel insults that is not healthy. The deniel needs to be shaken off and you need to look into the reality of what's in front of you simple and plain.

Relationships and MYSPACE

A discussion was brought to attention about relationships and Myspace. Should there be a limit for people in relationships to frequent the Myspace site? There have been comments made that after a certain age men and women should has no business being social on Myspace especially those in relationships and/or married. It was said Myspace causes issues in some relationships with the man/woman browsing for hours and making friends. It was also thought maybe the party would be contacting these "new friends" on a regular basis and it went to the level of exchanging phone numbers and personal e-mail addresses. Stories were even said that some meetings were scheduled to meet the "new friends" from Myspace.

Now as we know the internet has become the new dating place to meet and chat. If your mate is on Myspace looking for that then they are obviously not that interested in the relationship they are in. To be quite honest Myspace wouldn't be the main issue to worry about, trusting your mate should be. If he/she is on Myspace making friends on Myspace just think of what they are doing in local places like the mall, gas stations, clubs or where they go.

Myspace isn't always the bad guy, there is a large population that use it for advertising, marketing and keeping in touch with personal friends or running into old friends. A lot of businesses advertise, new music artists promote their songs, etc.

Maybe communication should be made within the relationship about the boundries and expectations of browsing Myspace. Or could these be trust issues or insecurities. The main picture that should be addressed is within the relationship itself, why would your mate be looking for love or lust on Myspace in the first place. Hmmmmmm??????

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Should you tell your significant other everything?

Is it important to tell your mate everything? The person you consider your soulmate, the one your intimate with, that person you can consider marrying or are already married to. Is it wrong to keep secrets from them? Some will say it's important that your significant other know EVERYTHING from your past relationships, old or new friends, or if you cheated while in the relationship.

Others say no you shouldn't tell every thing about you some things you should keep to yourself, like embarrassing moments, the number of past intimate partners or maybe things you wish you hadn't done. Is it possible to date a person that has secrets? Is not telling considered being dishonest or lying, or are some things no one else's business? A healthy long term relationship (dating or married) should be based on honesty, right.

Should I tell or should I keep the skeleton closet door closed.

Do MEN hesitate to get married?

After how long into a relationship should the subject marriage be brought up? There are couples that date for three years or more and have yet to take the trip down the aisle. Couples move in together without having the understanding of what each one wants out of the relationship, or if it will go to the next level. Should this be okay, and for how long? Some women say men are afraid to commit, are men afraid to make a real commitment or are you the woman that he really wants to marry. This could be communication issues.

Some women are letting men off the hook and making excuses for them not being ready, or the famous line "what's the difference, it's just a piece of paper". If women want to be married but are dating a man that does not, what keeps the relationship going. Is this the man's fault if he has said he does not want to be married. Should women sacrifice complete full happiness waiting? The signs may be there in the relationship whether it will move to that next level, and if marriage is in the future. The question is how long should you willing to wait?

What are your thoughts on this subject.