Monday, August 11, 2008

Is it okay to gain weight in relationship?

We all would like our mates to stay the same through out the relationship as the first day we met. Sometimes it just doesn’t happen.

At what pound is too much to handle? Why not after maybe 10 to 15 pounds weight gain a conversation takes place in a nice considerate manner because we don’t just wake up one morning 30 pounds heavier. How about offering to exercise together. I know the women may be a little sensitive about the weight subject, especially if after having kids. But I think the person would appreciate it better if there was a plan to handle the task together rather than insulting remarks or going out to cheat. Running away from the issue never solves anything; try resolving the issue first before it gets out of control. Again, communication is golden.

Tell me your story, have you had this battle with weight gain. Is it okay to gain weight in the relationship?



5 comments:

Reese said...

I love this topic. I have been struggling with weight a little before i had my son. I am 31 and trying to get back into shape. I have started working out. I think the older you get if you dont stay active in the gym it is harder. I have done it all diet pills, steriods, everything but lipo which i am highly considering. Funny i said to my hsband i dont feel sexy anymore, he said sexy is you being confident with who you are. So yeah i thnk he would like me to lose some weight but overall he is like who cares what people think as long as you are happy.

SO i honestly say no its not ok to gain TOOOO much weight. I mean 5 or 10 lbs but why gain all kinds of weight and make no effort after all that is not who the other person married. My husband married a slender 5 ft 3 120 lbs girl. I will get there in a few months. THANKs KENDRA for all your great topics. i got to get this out.

Unknown said...

Okay, so there's nothing wrong with gaining a little weight in a relationship, but we all know that men are visual creatures and the reason he was attracted to you was based a lot on how you looked. I don't think you could gain 50lbs and expect the same physical attraction, but if your man has a problem with it, then he should help you with loosing weight.

My boyfriend and I are both athletic people so we work out together. I love the fact that he puts effort into wanting to look good for me and that makes me want to do the same for him. Besides the physical attributes we want to stay healthy.

If your man has a problem with your weight then he better be the first person exercising with you to help you get the weight off. Motivating you, not degrading you will help you get the weight off.

taya said...

Yo, why is this even a topic....I don't think it matters if a person gains weight or not in a relationship! It's not about the weight....it's about the person...now if they are at risk of losing their life b/c they are overweight then that's another story but if I was 130 and then had a baby and now I'm heavier....SO WHAT. If i'm comfortable in my own skin I could care less about what other people think. Now if my BF wants me to loss weight...and I want to also...then that's cool but if your a heavy woman and your with a man that insults you...or wants you to lose weight....and your fine with the way you look...then you need to step. Cuz for every man that's doesn't like heavy women, there is a man that does.

Get Togetha said...

If you live to please another person you'll never be happy. Weight gain in women should not be a source of pain.

Sometimes when you're in a relationship you tend to get comfortable; but you should always keep your fitness as a priority cause men pay attention to how we treat ourselves. Translation: If you don't care about your own body then he won't care.

If we treat ourselves well; he'll either follow suit or leave.

Kingsmomma said...

I think you have to understand that people will age and that influences all types of things including but not limited to weight. Yes when you met your spouse several years ago your body could rival beyonces and not you packed on a few pounds but LIFE happened. Perhaps you had a child or two and weren't as quick in snapping back. When you are in love (NOT LUST) with someone you appreciate everything about them. The fact they beared your children only adds fuel to that passion. I agree with KONDRA. Your man liked you b.c of what he saw first, everything else was a bonus. If your man and let's face it You (b/c you probably have a problem with the weight you gained...I've been there) should work out together. You would actually stick to the regiment and when you peel off the pounds the sex would be that much better.
Ultimately its about your self image. I don't know anyone who has piled on the pounds that really feels great about not being what they used to be.