Wednesday, July 30, 2008

When should the Relationship end?

In relationships where should the line be drawn to accept all the abuse and mistreatment? When is it ENOUGH?

I have to address the ladies on this subject mainly because that's where I have noticed most of the issues. Why do women hold on to relationships when it is blatant mistreatment going on. I have heard the excuse "we have been together for X amount of years" too many times. Since when does the amount of years justify why your self pride, self worth and value are discredited? Ladies you have to stop making excuses. Stop holding on to a person that is clearly not for you; or waiting to wake up one morning and see a changed person. Why is all your energy focused on saving something that isn't worth or will not change. Kissing a frog and he turning into a prince is only in the fairy tales. For arguments sake let's say at one point this man was your knight in shining armor and one day he changed and hasn't been that person since then. Well clearly his feelings about you changed, whether you did something to make his feelings shift, or he just isn't interested in the relationship anymore. What about the idea that maybe he just was that way to hook you, cause really who is a jerk from day one?

Let's give some examples of mistreatment or abuse (in my opinion). Obviously physical abuse would be the number one example. I'm waiting for the answer to the million dollar question why would you stay with someone that treats you like a punching bag. What about verbal abuse. Calling you names that are demeaning; whore, bitch, slut etc. Add the adjectives stupid or fuckin in the front of those words and it makes it ten times worse. How can you forgive some one for that would belittle you in such a way. If another woman or person that owes you nothing called you that on the street you would be ready to fight. But a person that is suppose to love, cherish and respect you says it and it's ok. Ok he says sorry he didn't mean it he was just mad. FORGET THAT what you say first is usually your true thoughts. Of course we all say things that sometimes we don't mean, and in the heat of the moment, but when it's continuous let's be real. When the relationship has gotten to the point of horrible and cruel insults that is not healthy. The deniel needs to be shaken off and you need to look into the reality of what's in front of you simple and plain.

2 comments:

Reese said...

WOW! Your writting is really good. I am nto sure why people stay together. Maybe cause of the comfort, the time spent with this person, yu feel why let someone else enjoy the good that your have taught that peson. Maybe theres children involved a lot of factors. I am waiting to hear the answers on this one

taya said...

There are many reason women do that and you mentioned one. They feel like they invested this time in the relationship and they can't get that time back....so they feel like they have to stay. Women who are in abusive relationships...physical...mental...or whatever might have low self esteem and might think they can't get anyone else besides the one they have. Also women attract certain types of men and don't even realize it. Ever have this friend who seems to always get with men that are d*ck heads, or they always end up hitting the woman, or their dogs......these women attract these type of men....they need to get out of that cycle....

I know one thing someone call me a BITCH...no matter who it is....we gon beef fo sho! I don't use that language to my friends or loved ones, there is no reason for that and saying sorry doesn't mean anything when they continue to repeat it. Not to get on men all the time but women do that also....they act a certain way to hook a guy and when they get together they completely switch. It's called manipulation....and everyone does it to get what they want.